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Perfectionism is a defense mechanism, hot leads for Big Cash Money + more
Last week I was all in my feelings about how to be good at launching things, and why we get stuck before the starting line. One thing I hadn’t originally considered as a culprit is perfectionism. Or rather, what hides as perfectionism.
Last week I was all in my feelings about how to be good at launching things, and why we get stuck before the starting line.
One thing I hadn’t originally considered as a culprit is perfectionism. Or rather, what hides as perfectionism.
Brene Brown, as always, offers a spot-on take: perfectionism is a defense mechanism. It tries to defend us by saying “If you look perfect, do perfect, and accomplish perfect, you can avoid or minimize shame and judgment and blame”. Therefore, by never launching, you don’t risk experiencing the shame and judgment of not being good enough.
It’s not at all about striving for excellence, it’s how we self-protect.
When we get that it-has-to-be-perfect feeling, she suggests cutting to the chase and asking “What am I afraid of”?
So one thing to think about the next time you’ve started but haven’t launched is: is there something I’m afraid of? And seeing how you can tackle that fear head-on.
Just food for thought ❤️
— Biggy, the friendly pig behind Big Cash Money
DON’T MISS OUT
My bookmarks from the week - good reads, listens, and general inspo from all around.
📒 I love this unique, no-BS route to monetization: Tim Stoddart makes over $200,000 per year from his business making directories
📬 Progress updates are a fact of life in most 9-5s or side-projects, here’s how to nail them
🌶️ This spicy take on newsletters (and the comments!) gave me a good think about the future
🏷️ Here’s a great video on how to find your pricing sweet spot using a triangulation approach
🚗 This path from learning-at-your-dayjob to consulting and then productizing is simple + brilliant
🖨 If my printer had ink in it, I’d definitely print this out and put it above my desk
FOMO Fix
Where I’m going and where I wish I was going - events (IRL and online), workshops, webinars, meetups, and conferences.
🤑 Monetization: How to turn your skills and expertise into additional income, by Big Cash Money & Ryan Cox, Thursday May 2 at 10AM PT/1PM ET (virtual, paid)
📈 30 Day Indie Growth Challenge, by Milly Barker, May 1 - May 30 (virtual, paid)
🗣️ The Newsletter Conference, May 3, 9 AM - 5 PM (NYC paid, use code CIRCLE for $100 off)
MUST FOLLOWS
Multihyphenates I absolutely love following.
🤩 Lindsey Gamble is my favorite follow for a quick pulse-check on everything happening in the world of creators and all the social media platforms
🤓 Solt Wagner is the person to follow if you’re curious about selling digital products and more specifically, Notion templates
😙 Tarzan Kay Kalryzian is a recent follow for me on LinkedIn, and I find her to be such a wise breath of fresh air + lots of great, actionable tips on emails and newsletters
HOT LEADS FOR BIG CASH MONEY
🔊 Roadmap to Billions by Black Women Talk Tech is happening May 17-18 in Brooklyn, NY, and is looking for keynote speakers. To submit your talk and get more information, reach out directly to: [email protected]
👩🏽🎨 Processing Foundation's Fellowship funds creative tech and art, and includes a $10,000 stipend as well as dedicated mentorship, skill-building workshops, public programs, and community engagement opportunities; apply by May 2
💸 The NYU Female Founders Fellowship supports women entrepreneurs with mentorship, coaching, and student loan alleviation grants of up to $30,000 apply by May 13
LIVE FROM BIG CASH MONEY
Big Cash Money (lovingly called BCM) is a community of professionals who are building multiple income streams - often alongside a day job.
🪄 Members participated in Friday Feelings, the most popular of all the events in BCM, where we meet weekly synchronously (but text, not video) to share the highs and the lows and support each other.
🪄 Coach Ryan shared a great video from Kate Volman on admitting that perfect is a fantasy (you can view the video here)
🪄 Members are really excited about the upcoming Monetization Workshop (workshops are free for BCM members!)
Want to join a future cohort? Add yourself to the waiting list. Cohorts opening up soon.
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